Sooner or later your sweet little toddler will blurt out a string of words that sounds a lot like an insult. You might hear something like, You're a do-do head. or the ever popular, You're stupid. It may stop you in your tracks and make you wonder, Did I hear that right?
Toddler rage can get pretty intense and if you're a toddler you're not really capable of saying exactly what's got your big girl or boy panties in a wad. As a parent, you might have to restrain yourself from giggling the first time or two insults are hurled, but after awhile you're really going to want to put a stop to it. First of all it's annoying when the cuteness wears off- and secondly, you don't want your child insulting everyone whenever they get the urge, and finally they need to learn how to control their impulses.
Sometimes parents, caregivers or babysitters get right down on a toddlers level and the fight begins. No one wins in this situation.
So how do you put a stop to your preschooler's name-calling and its first cousin potty mouth?
Well, there are several approaches you can try. Since every kid is different, some of these tips will help some and not others. But don't give up and don't lose your cool (too often.)
What is that hissing noise in the air? Plenty of wheezing and coughing ushering in upper respiratory season. With all this noise, I'm on the lookout for respiratory distress. As I start to see more and more sick kids, my office becomes a cacophony of coughing. While many of the coughs sound horrible, fortunately most of the children I will see do not have any real respiratory distress.
It is the time of year when I start to get many patients asking me if they have a cold or is this flu, and how can you tell? Well, it is usually fairly easy as you are so much sicker with the flu! Currently we are seeing tons of colds and I have YET to diagnose a case of flu, although there is beginning to be sporadic cases reported around the country.
From the moment your baby is born until you send them off to college, your child will be seeing his/her pediatrician for "well child check-ups". These are regularly scheduled visits which occur quite frequently when you have a baby or toddler and become a yearly visit once your child is over the age of 3. The well child visit is an extremely important part of a pediatrician's job, and is also your child's medical home.
In fact, one of the most rewarding aspects of being a pediatrician is having the privilege to observe a child from birth through their teens, in a sense, "helping to raise them". Therein lays the reason for check-ups.
When you see your pediatrician for a check-up, I'm sure you get your child's weight, height, BMI, (and blood pressure once they are older), as well as their growth percentiles.
The doctor also does a physical exam on your child, which is hopefully all normal. But there is a lot more than that to your visit. This is the time for your doctor to discuss your child's milestones; whether that is sitting up for the first time, first words or how they are performing in first grade. These conversations continue for all of your child's school years as well.
It is also the time to discuss multiple other topics which should include sleep habits, nutrition and safety which is pertinent to all age groups. As your child gets older the conversation should include discussions about school performance, bullying, studying, screen time, family meals, exercise, and the child's interests.
For the teen patient I think it is important to discuss sexuality, peer pressures, driving, and the adolescent's long term goals. The list goes on and on, but certain topics should certainly be yearly discussions which are then tailored to the age of the child.
As a child gets older it is important to have some time where the doctor may be alone with the adolescent who may want some "private time" with the doctor. It